there was a topic bring brought up recently by a friend of mine, which it actually force me to think about compromising in Love.
I always told others, in my philosophy of love, being attached means you are not more alone, nor single, it means that you accept/invite someone to be in part of your life. Thus, in what ever you do, you must also take your partner into consideration. The problem is, are you compromising when you take he or her into your consideration?
Some one said, when you compromising, means you sacrifice the thing you like, to do the thing she/he like. This seen to have a point. But what is Love when you have to sacrifice the thing you like? when you ahve to restrict yourself? Love should make people happy, should make people free, but when it make people sacrificing or limited the thing he/she like, is that still love? I was thinking about that.
Love, means you want to make her/him happy? This is not totally true. Love should make "us" happy and better, instead. When the sacrificing, or restriction is meant for better for both, that compromising is worth. But, it really need wisdom, to know what is best for both.
Some guy are really very friendly, to both guy and girls ( maybe more to pretty girl), but he was like that even before he was attached. After being attached, if he still being so friendly to others girls until his girl friend get jealous, even he had introduce his girlfriend, does he wrong? If I am the guy, I can say I have no wrong, I were like that even before, and I not going to change. But from a third person, I will have to say, being attach is no longer single life, a lot of thing need to have a limit and border. Should the guy compromise to control himself? or the girl compromise to accept him as he were?
What if the case, if the guy is being promoted to others country, which he has to be separated with his girlfriend for a very long time. Do he has to compromise to reject that offer, or the girl need to compromise to go with him, while the girl already has a good job?
Compromising...think about that, a hard lesson to learn...2 people in a relationship, someone must compromise, before the relationship string stretch too much....
I always told others, in my philosophy of love, being attached means you are not more alone, nor single, it means that you accept/invite someone to be in part of your life. Thus, in what ever you do, you must also take your partner into consideration. The problem is, are you compromising when you take he or her into your consideration?
Some one said, when you compromising, means you sacrifice the thing you like, to do the thing she/he like. This seen to have a point. But what is Love when you have to sacrifice the thing you like? when you ahve to restrict yourself? Love should make people happy, should make people free, but when it make people sacrificing or limited the thing he/she like, is that still love? I was thinking about that.
Love, means you want to make her/him happy? This is not totally true. Love should make "us" happy and better, instead. When the sacrificing, or restriction is meant for better for both, that compromising is worth. But, it really need wisdom, to know what is best for both.
Some guy are really very friendly, to both guy and girls ( maybe more to pretty girl), but he was like that even before he was attached. After being attached, if he still being so friendly to others girls until his girl friend get jealous, even he had introduce his girlfriend, does he wrong? If I am the guy, I can say I have no wrong, I were like that even before, and I not going to change. But from a third person, I will have to say, being attach is no longer single life, a lot of thing need to have a limit and border. Should the guy compromise to control himself? or the girl compromise to accept him as he were?
What if the case, if the guy is being promoted to others country, which he has to be separated with his girlfriend for a very long time. Do he has to compromise to reject that offer, or the girl need to compromise to go with him, while the girl already has a good job?
Compromising...think about that, a hard lesson to learn...2 people in a relationship, someone must compromise, before the relationship string stretch too much....
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When u think it's too much to compromise, does it mean u din really committed fully into the relationship? n tis relationship is nt d one?
in a relationship, respecting each other, nt over compromising oneself with another half and nt asking d other half compromise him/herself.
which one? neither do i knw...it's hard for a lesson like tis...
I think love is about commitment and responsible as well.
If one is already in a relationship, they would automatically flirt less with others, but no doubt some are more friendly than others, which would cause jealousy. This is the time faith comes in. The other half should understand that everyone needs their own space and time.
Complicated indeed..
So, if your boyfriend is crossing the border in talking with others girls, u need to understand he needs space?
haha, this is a problem face by my fren, and tht y i share it.
For me if my boyfriend is true to me he will not and do not need to go over board with other girls. As for the space kinda means give your couple time with friends or does things they like. That's just my personal opinion.
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