《谁欠谁的幸福》高考满分作文

张无忌放弃了江湖与江山
他把幸福给了赵敏
却把牵挂给了小昭
把漂泊给了蛛儿
把憾恨给了芷若……

杨过和小龙女最终做了神仙眷侣
也许他知道，也许他不知道
也许他装作不知道
程英和陆无双为他负尽青春抛尽韶华
郭襄为他天涯思君念念不忘
也许他记得，也许他不记得
曾经有一个叫公孙绿萼的姑娘把一生停驻在他一刹那的目光里
而他所能给的，也只能是一曲清箫、三枚金针或者某一刻的眷顾而已

这世间，太少的相濡以沫，太多的相忘江湖……
我们曾经深深地爱过一些人
爱的时候，把朝朝暮暮当作天长地久
把缱绻一时当作被爱了一世
于是承诺，于是奢望执子之手，幸福终老
然后一切消失了，然后我们终于明白
天长地久是一件多么可遇不可求的事情
幸福是一种多么玄妙多么脆弱的东西
也许爱情与幸福无关
也许这一生最终的幸福与心底最深处的那个人无关
也许将来的某一天，我们会牵住谁的手，一生细水长流地把风景看透。

其实承诺并没有什么，不见了也不算什么
所有的一切自有它的归宿
我们学着看淡，学着不强求
学着深藏，把你深深埋藏
藏到岁月的烟尘企及不到的地方……
只是，只是为什么在某个落雨的黄昏
在某个寂寂的夜里你还是隐隐地在我心里淡入、淡出
淡出、淡入，拿不走，抹不掉。

阿朱如花的笑靥正在青石桥旁小镜湖边渐渐凋零
乔峰在滂沱的夜雨中泪雨也滂沱
你给我保护，我还你祝福
你英雄好汉需要抱负
可你欠我幸福，拿什么来弥补

陈家洛不愿负天下人，便负红颜
一个为他香消玉殒，一个因他寂寞余生
也许他的命运早早已是注定

终是塞上牛羊空许约。　　
空许约，空许约，幸福永远未完成……
我多么想和你有一个深深的拥抱之后,转身离去。
情深未变却寒盟
终究差了那么一点点
幸福转眼消逝
从此一个人，日日自己关门
一个人熄灯
其实也没什么不好，只不过寒冷的夜里少了一个人的温暖
只不过幸福不再完整…… 　


倚天的结局处，周芷若曾这样问过张无忌，在小昭、蛛儿、赵敏和她四个人中，他真正爱的人是哪一个。张无忌一时感慨万千，想起自己也曾扪心自问过，那时只觉得，若能和四位姑娘一起长相厮守，岂不逍遥快活？然而世事变迁,小昭远赴波斯做了教主，表妹蛛儿逝世，芷若误入歧途，只有赵姑娘一直陪在自己身边。虽然期间曾产生过误会，他对赵敏是又爱又恨，但心里从未放下过对她的牵念。然而，芷若的介入总让他内心摇摆不定，始终无法正视自己的情感。直到这一刻，面对赵敏的不辞而别，他终于发现，自己对那鬼灵精怪的小妖女竟这般难以割舍，若是今生再见不了她，自己也决计活不下去了。他终于找到心底的那个答案，对芷若，他是一向敬重，对蛛儿，他是心生感激，对小昭，他是意存怜惜，但对赵敏，却是刻骨铭心的相爱。

人有时候，总在失去时才后知后觉，一些人，一些事，以为只是生命中一抹浮云，以为可以从此相忘于江湖，却在别离之际发现，那些过往原来早已扎根在心底，拿不掉，抹不去。

杨过与小龙女终成眷属，逍遥于江湖之外，他可记得，还有一个痴心的女子对他天涯思君念念不忘，抛尽韶华，守候一生。他是否会想起，多年前那张天真无邪的面容，是否会想起，初遇时她莞尔一笑，道，我姓郭，单名一个襄字。

眷恋的人，给不了你承诺，于是你终于明白，幸福是一件多么可遇不可求的事情。可是为何仍要飞蛾扑火，执着一生？也许就如李莫愁时常低吟的那样：问世间情为何物，直教人生死相许。这世界上最复杂的东西，一个人又如何能想的透彻？

有一个人，教会你如何去爱了，但是，他却不爱你了
有一个人，你一直在等他，他却忘记了你。
有一个人，他想离开了，你却没有丝毫挽留，因为你渐渐明白，挽留是没有用的，你能给的，只有自由。

你以为只要走的很潇洒，就不会有太多的痛苦，就不会有留恋，可是，为什么在喧闹的人群中会突然沉默下来，为什么听歌听到一半会突然哽咽不止。你不知道自己在期待什么，不知道自己在坚持什么，脑海里挥之不去的，都是过往的倒影。

爱你的人，对你的要求很少，可以在很想你的时候看看你，可以在寂寞的时候和你说句话，这就是她所有的幸福。

如果因为执念而作出仓促的决定，可以离开，但请不要走远，不要急着为彼此定性，不要急着分清界限， 回头看看，她是否还在。

善待爱你的那个人，那个不希望你困扰，所以强颜欢笑、骗你说释怀了的人，那个默默关注你，从不曾离开的人，如果你还彷徨着，如果你还抑制不住的想着她，如果你还在意她的一颦一簇，不妨给她一个可能，也给自己一个可能。

在爱情里，如果两人都很被动，一段美好的姻缘不免在时间的摧残下消磨殆尽，并不是两个人不适合，而是双方都习惯于等待，等待对方先主动，没有耐心的人于是选择离开，最后徒留遗憾。

所以，爱是有来生的，就像不灭的火种，只需加点干柴，它依旧能发出夺目的火光。

几米说：
当你喜欢我的时候，我不喜欢你
当你爱上我的时候，我喜欢上你
当你离开我的时候，我却爱上你
是你走的太快，还是我跟不上你的脚步？
我们错过了诺亚方舟，错过了泰坦尼克号，错过了一切惊险与不惊险，我们还要继续错过
但是，请允许我说这样自私的话
多年后
你若未嫁
我若未娶
那
我们能不能在一起？？？？

记住你欠我的幸福!!

（写得很好，不得不转）

Pig and Babi

Was chatting with a friend yesterday, disturb her and chat in Malay. haha...
However, something funny when come to the word "Babi", which is Pig.

Me: Oi, you so pig lah. sleep eat sleep eat only.
      ( Oi, U ni babi sangat lah. tidur makan tidur makan saja.)
She : you lah pig. I where got sleep eat sleep eat.
        ( U lah babi, saya mana ada tidur makan tidur makan)

Suddenly, I found the work " Babi" is so weird, and sound like a foul language. However, the word pig is so cute.
Why is it different so much, when the same word in different language give people such a extreme impression?

You are so pig!
Hang ni Babi sangat !

word with same meaning, but different expression.
Do you get it?

Choose your word wisely.

Chinese Malaysian

I came across this article from Joy's blog, I couldn't understand why someone could write something like this before he even understand the situation, and see only a piece from the whole picture.
As a Chinese Malaysian, I believe what we want is as simple as a fair treatment and a government with high integrity. If you are a Chinese Malaysia, please re-post this in your blog to support it.

“Chinese Malaysians Asking Far Too Much”

By Zaini Hassan
Source – Straits Times, published Apr 30, 2010

WHAT else do Chinese Malaysians want? Let us put aside the reasons why they do not support the current government in Kuala Lumpur. Let us study first what else they want.

For that, we have to go back to history. The Chinese came to Malaya to seek opportunities. They had lived a hard life in mainland China for hundreds of years. Like the whites who migrated to the American continent because it was the land of opportunity, the Chinese migrated to Malaya to make their fortunes in this bountiful land.

The strategy of their forebears has borne fruit. The Chinese have attained what they wanted. They now live in the lap of luxury in this land of opportunity called Malaysia.

In fact, it is not only in Malaysia that they have attained what they wanted. They have even gained full control of Singapore. Singapore is not their original country. The Singapore Chinese and the Malaysian Chinese were originally boat people. The difference is that those who landed in Singapore managed to gain full control of Singapore, but those who landed in Malaysia did not manage to control Malaysia.

In Malaysia, the Chinese live in peace with the Malays, the indigenous people and the Indians. In comparison, in Singapore, the Chinese control politics and the Government. In Malaysia, the Malays still control politics and the government. The systems of both governments are the same, but it is vice versa: The Malays dominate in Malaysia while the Chinese dominate across the Causeway.

In contrast, the Malays in Singapore and the Chinese in Malaysia are very different. The Malays in Singapore lead ordinary lives while the Chinese in Malaysia lead lives that are ‘more than ordinary’.

In fact, former Malaysian prime minister Mahathir Mohamad once stated that if all the Chinese-owned buildings in Kuala Lumpur were lifted from the map, only the buildings in Kampung Baru, a Malay area, would remain in the city.
All the other buildings are owned by Chinese Malaysians. The well-known shopping centres in Malaysia are owned by the Chinese.
The Chinese Malaysians are fantastic. They control all the cities and major towns in peninsular Malaysia, as well as Sabah and Sarawak. They produce the largest number of, and the most successful, professionals. The school system of the Chinese Malaysians is the best among similar school systems in the world.
The Chinese account for most of the students studying in the best private colleges in Malaysia. The Malays can gain admission into only government-owned colleges of ordinary reputation.
With regard to corporate and private organisations, it is the Chinese who dominate. The Malays number just a few; most of them are low-level employees. In fact, knowing Mandarin is a prerequisite for applying for jobs in these organisations.
Finally, an annual survey by the Malaysian Business magazine has found that eight of the 10 richest people in Malaysia are Chinese. The following is the list of the 10 richest people in Malaysia:

Mr Robert Kuok Hock Nien
Mr Tatparanandam Ananda Krishnan
Tan Sri Lee Shin Cheng
Tan Sri The Hong Piow
Tan Sri Lim Kok Thay
Tan Sri Quek Leng Chan
Tan Sri Syed Mokhtar Al-Bukhary
Puan Sri Lee Kim Hua
Tan Sri Tiong Hiew King
Tan Sri Vincent Tan Chee Yioun

This is the reality in Malaysia, my beloved country. Is the current government, which has been in power for 52 years, cruel and totalitarian? What else do the Chinese Malaysians want? I think I know, and I think you know too.

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Thuan Chye Responds to “Orang Cina Malaysia, apa lagi yang anda mahu?”(Utusan Malaysia article)

By Kee Thuan Chye

Every time the Barisan Nasional gets less than the expected support from Chinese voters at an election, the question invariably pops up among the petty-minded: Why are the Chinese ungrateful?

So now, after the Hulu Selangor by-election, it’s not surprising to read in Utusan Malaysia a piece that asks: “Orang Cina Malaysia, apa lagi yang anda mahu?” (trans. Chinese of Malaysia, what more do you want?)

Normally, something intentionally provocative and propagandistic as this doesn’t deserve to be honoured with a reply. But even though I’m fed up with such disruptive and ethnocentric polemics, this time I feel obliged to reply – partly because the article has also been published, in an English translation, in the Straits Times of Singapore.
I wish to emphasise here that I am replying not as a Chinese Malaysian but, simply, as a Malaysian. Let me say at the outset that the Chinese have got nothing more than what any citizen should get. So to ask “what more” it is they want, is misguided. A correct question would be, “What do the Chinese want?”

All our lives, we Chinese have held to the belief that no one owes us a living. We have to work for it. Most of us have got where we are by the sweat of our brow, not by handouts or the policies of the government.
We have come to expect nothing – not awards, not accolades, not gifts from official sources. (Let’s not lump in Datukships, that’s a different ball game.) We know that no Chinese who writes in the Chinese language will ever be bestowed the title of Sasterawan Negara, unlike in Singapore where the literatures of all the main language streams are recognised and honoured with the Cultural Medallion, etc.

We have learned we can’t expect the government to grant us scholarships. Some will get those, but countless others won’t. We’ve learned to live with that and to work extra hard in order to support our children to attain higher education – because education is very important to us. We experience a lot of daily pressure to achieve that. Unfortunately, not many non-Chinese realise or understand that. In fact, many Chinese had no choice but to emigrate for the sake of their children’s further education. Or to accept scholarships from abroad, many from Singapore, which has inevitably led to a brain drain.

The writer of the Utusan article says the Chinese “account for most of the students” enrolled in “the best private colleges in Malaysia”. Even so, the Chinese still have to pay a lot of money to have their children study in these colleges. And to earn that money, the parents have to work very hard. The money does not fall from the sky.
The writer goes on to add: “The Malays can gain admission into only government-owned colleges of ordinary reputation.” That is utter nonsense. Some of these colleges are meant for the cream of the Malay crop of students and are endowed with the best facilities. They are given elite treatment.
The writer also fails to acknowledge that the Chinese are barred from being admitted to some of these colleges. As a result, the Chinese are forced to pay more money to go to private colleges. Furthermore, the Malays are also welcome to enrol in the private colleges, and many of them do. It’s, after all, a free enterprise.

Plain and simple reason
The writer claims that the Chinese live “in the lap of luxury” and lead lives that are “more than ordinary” whereas the Malays in Singapore, their minority-race counterparts there, lead “ordinary lives”. Such sweeping statements sound inane especially when they are not backed up by definitions of “lap of luxury” and “ordinary lives”. They sound hysterical, if not hilarious as well, when they are not backed up by evidence. It’s surprising that a national daily like Utusan Malaysia would publish something as idiosyncratic as that. And the Straits Times too.
The writer quotes from a survey that said eight of the 10 richest people in Malaysia are Chinese. Well, if these people are where they are, it must have also come from hard work and prudent business sense. Is that something to be faulted?

If the writer had said that some of them achieved greater wealth through being given crony privileges and lucrative contracts by the government, there might be a point, but even then, it would still take hard work and business acumen to secure success. Certainly, Syed Mokhtar Al-Bukhary, who is one of the 10, would take exception if it were said that he has not worked hard and lacks business savvy.

Most important, it should be noted that the eight Chinese tycoons mentioned in the survey represent but a minuscule percentage of the wider Chinese Malaysian population. To extrapolate that because eight Chinese are filthy rich, the rest of the Chinese must therefore live in the lap of luxury and lead more than ordinary lives would be a mockery of the truth. The writer has obviously not met the vast numbers of very poor Chinese.

The crux of the writer’s article is that the Chinese are not grateful to the government by not voting for Barisan Nasional at the Hulu Selangor by-election. But this demonstrates the thinking of either a simple mind or a closed one.
Why did the Chinese by and large not vote for BN? Because it’s corrupt. Plain and simple. Let’s call a spade a spade. And BN showed how corrupt it was during the campaign by throwing bribes to the electorate, including baiting a Chinese school in Rasa by promising RM3 million should it win the by-election.

The Chinese were not alone in seeing this corruption. The figures are unofficial but one could assume that at least 40 per cent of Malays and 45 per cent of Indians who voted against BN in that by-election also had their eyes open. So, what’s wrong with not supporting a government that is corrupt? If the government is corrupt, do we continue to support it?

To answer the question then, what do the Chinese want?
They want a government…

a. that is not corrupt;

b. that can govern well and proves to have done so;

c. that tells the truth rather than lies;

d. that follows the rule of law;

e. that upholds rather than abuses the country’s sacred institutions.

Because BN does not fit that description, the Chinese have learned not to vote for it. This is not what only the Chinese want. It is something every sensible Malaysian, regardless of race, wants. Is that something that is too difficult to understand?
Some people think that the government is to be equated with the country, and therefore if someone does not support the government, they are being disloyal to the country. This is a complete fallacy. BN is not Malaysia. It is merely a political coalition that is the government of the day. Rejecting BN is not rejecting the country.

A sense of belonging
Let’s be clear about this important distinction. In America, the people sometimes vote for the Democrats and sometimes for the Republicans. Voting against the one that is in government at the time is not considered disloyalty to the country.
By the same token, voting against UMNO is also voting against a party, not against a race. And if the Chinese or whoever criticise UMNO, they are criticising the party; they are not criticising Malays. It just happens that UMNO’s leaders are Malay.
It is time all Malaysians realised this so that we can once and for all dispel the confusion. Let us no longer confuse country with government. We can love our country and at the same time hate the government. It is perfectly all right.

I should add here what the Chinese don’t want:

a. We don’t want to be insulted,

b. We don’t want to be called pendatang

c. We don’t want to be told to be grateful for our citizenship.

We have been loyal citizens; we duly and dutifully pay taxes; we respect the country’s constitution and its institutions. Our forefathers came to this country many generations ago and helped it to prosper. We are continuing to contribute to the country’s growth and development.

Would anyone like to be disparaged, made to feel unwelcome or unwanted? For the benefit of the writer of the Utusan article, what MCA president Chua Soi Lek means when he says the MCA needs to be more vocal is that it needs to speak up whenever the Chinese community is disparaged. For too long, the MCA has not spoken up strongly enough when UMNO politicians and associates like Ahmad Ismail, Nasir Safar, Ahmad Noh and others before them insulted the Chinese and made them feel like they don’t belong. That’s why the Chinese have largely rejected the MCA.
You see, the Chinese, like all human beings, want self-respect. And a sense of belonging in this country they call home. That is all the Chinese want, and have always wanted. Nothing more.

The Utusan Malaysia article: Orang Cina Malaysia, apa lagi yang anda mahu?

Dramatist and journalist Kee Thuan Chye is the author of ‘March 8: The Day Malaysia Woke Up’. He is a contributor to Free Malaysia Today

不是Have To，而是Want

前几天看了一部正在播映的日剧『Real Clothes』
这部剧是讲关于一家百货公司重整女性服装部的故事
在剧里面，女主角被委任为婚纱展的负责人
所以她必须策划整个展览的细节与要表达的主题

在她向上司报告完整个计划的细节之后
上司很平淡的回复她说『好，就照着你的意思做』
当时女主角露出一个喜悦的表情，因为她的上司是个很有要求的人
但是在那句话之后，上司又补多一句『但是很无聊』
女主角当场露出很惊讶的眼神看着她的上司
心里想，刚才你不是讲很好的么？为什么又说很无聊呢？？

这时上司解说，在她的报告书里面全都是Have to不是Want
就是说很公式化的配合主题的企划，完全没有自己的想法，所以这份计划很无趣
没错，看看现在我们的教会青年团的管理模式
可以说是Have to而不是Want

我们Have to有灵命的成长
我们Have to所有人都要积极的参与传福音
我们Have to带领新朋友来
我们Have to多多祷告

看到吗，这已经是一个很公式化的
所以一直用旧有的方式去运作
但是如果我们把Have to转为Want呢
当你开始用Want的心态来管理和策划活动的话
那么我们的青年团可以变得很不一样
因为当一个人用Want来思考时，就会加入一些新的想法
而不会依循回以前所用的方式

我们Want有灵命的成长
这时我会开始想，到底要用什么方式才能让现在年轻一辈，能够有很好的灵命成长呢
如果以Have to的方式思考，结果就是，安排多一点的主题/专题等等活动
但是这些活动过于沉闷，就算是成人也未必受得了，更何况是热血一代
或者可以和他们交流，看看他们希望的模式是什么样子的
因为他们会提供给你很好意见的

我们Want所有人都要积极的参与传福音
这是我们常面对的问题之一，如果以Have to的方式来传福音的话
那么就会变成派单张，去一些人潮的地方告诉别人关于耶稣
但是现在年轻一辈的人，对电脑多过对人，所以当然没人愿意参与
可是我们可以用另一种方式来让他们去传福音
可以透过Facebook/Twitter等网络工具，不然就是帮他们找出适合他们自己的方式
把福音传出去，而不是一直逼他们要多派单张，多和人讲关于耶稣的故事
因为生活得有见证，也是一种传福音的方式

我们Want带领新朋友来
想必这已经是所有基督徒的使命，但是我们目前的节目能否适合非信徒呢？？
连现今参与的人也觉得苦闷，更何况是非信徒，所以当我们以Want来思考时
就会想尽办法把现有的节目模式转变，变得不止适合信徒，也适合非信徒参加
也可以和团员交流，找出一个大家觉得满意的活动模式
这样事情就可以事半功倍了

我们Want多多祷告
这是基督徒必须要有的，可是每次祷告的时候，都是很公式化的一定要闭着眼睛
所以我们青年团的聚会时间有1/3的时间是在祷告的，可是有个问题就是祷告的人很投入
但是在场的每一位也一样的投入吗？？还是他们只是闭着眼睛，但是心不在焉呢？？
是否闭着眼睛真的能比较不会分心吗？？老实说我是相反的，开着眼睛的我会比较专心
到底青年团里有多少人是会祷告的？？

从我参加教会的活动那么久来，我们都被教育要迫切的祷告，但是从来没有人教过我们如何祷告
所以我们很多时候在祷告时，都很公式化的以这句话来作为结束『奉主耶稣的名所求』
其实很多时候我们祷告的内容不是向上帝求的，但却会自然的以那句话作为结束
因为我们是从模仿中学习来的

所以青年团应该教导团员们该如何祷告，而不是每次带领者在前面很投入的祷告
可是团员却只是闭着眼睛去想别的事情，这是没有意义的

最后，我们应该改变我们现有的管理和带领方式
放弃所有Have to的观念和思想，而把其转换为Want的模式.

转载自http://www.i-dreamy.com

100 fact about guy and 30 fact about girl

Found this article from internet, just wanna share and see how my friend respond on it..hehe..
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1. Guys don`t actually look after good-looking girls. They prefer presentable and neat girls.

2. Guys hate flirts.

3. A guy can like you for a minute, then forget you afterwards.

4. When a guy says he doesn`t understand you, it simply means you`re not thinking the way he is.

5. "are you doing something?" or "have you eaten already?" Are the first usual questions a guy asks on the phone just to get out from stammering.

6. Guys may be flirting around all day but before they go to sleep, they always thinking about the girl they truly care about.

7. When a guy really likes you, he`ll disregard all your bad characteristics.

8. Guys go gaga over a girl`s smile.

9. Guys will do anything to get the girl`s attention.

10. Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend.

11. When guys want to meet you parents... let them.

12. Guys want to tell you many things but they can`t. And they sure have one habit to gain courage and spirit to tell you many things and it is...drinking!

13. Guys cry!!!

14. Don`t provoke the guy to heat up... believe me... he will.

15. Guys can never dream and hope too much.

16. Guys usually try hard to get the girl who has dumped them, and this makes it harder for them to accept defeat.

17. When you touch a guys heart, there`s no turning back.

18. Giving a guy a hanging message like, "you know what... uhh... nevermind!" Would make them jump to conclusions that are far from what you are thinking.

19. Guys go crazy when girls touch their hands.

20. Guys are good flatterers when courting but they usually stammer when they talk to a girl they really like.

21. When a guy makes a prolonged 'um...' or makes any excuses when you`re asking him to do a favor, he`s actually saying that he doesn`t like you and he can`t lay down a card for you.

22. When a girls says 'no', a guy hears it as 'try again tomorrow'.

23. You have to tell a guy what you really want before he gets the message.

24. Guys hate gays!

25. Guys love their moms.

26. A guy would sacrifice his money for lunch just to get you a couple of roses.

27. A guy often thinks about a girl who likes him, but this doesn`t actually mean that the guy likes her.

28. You can never understand him unless you listen to him.

29. If a guy tells you he loves you once in a lifetime... he does.

30. BEWARE! Guys can make a gossip scatter through half the face of the Earth faster than the girls can.

31. Girls are guys weaknesses.

32. Guys are very open about themselves.

33. It`s good to test a guy first before you believe him but don`t let him wait that long.

34. No guy is bad when he is courting.

35. Guys hate it when their clothes get dirty even a small dot.

36. Guys really admire girls that they like even if they`re not that much pretty.

37. Your bestfriend, whom you boyfriend seek help from about his problems with you may end up being admires by your boyfriend.

38. If a guy tells about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to him. You don`t need to give advice.

39. A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.

40. A guy find ways to keep you off from linking with some one else.

41. Guys love girls with brains than girls in mini-skirts.

42. Guys try to find the stuffed toy a girl really wants but he would unluckily end up with the wrong one.

43. Guys virtually brag about anything.

44. Guys cannot keep secrets that girls tell them.

45. Guys think too much.

46. Guys' fantasies are unlimited.

47. Girls' height doesn`t really matter to a guy but her weight does.

48. Guys tend to get serious with their relationship that they become too possessive... so watch out girls!

49. When a girl makes the boy suffer during courtship, it would be hard for him to let go of that girl.

50. It`s not easy for a guy to let go of his girlfriend after they broke up especially if they have been together for three years or more.

51. A guy have to experience rejection because if he`s too good---never been busted, never been in love and hurt---he wont mature and grown up.

52. You have to tell a guy what you really want before he gets the message clearly.

53. When an unpleasant circumstance comes, guys blame themselves a lot more than girls do. They could even hurt themselves physically.

54. Guys have strong passion to change but have weak will power.

55. Guys are tigers in their peer groups but become tamed pussycats with their girlfriends.

56. When a guy pretends to be calm, check if he`s sweating. You`ll probably see that he is nervous.

57. When a guy says he`s going crazy about the girl... he really is.

58. When a guy asks you to leave him alone, he`s just actually saying ''please come and listen to me''.

59. Guys dont really have final decisions.

60. When a guy loves you, bring out the best in him.

61. If a guy started to talk seriously, listen to him.

62. If a guy has been kept shut or silent, say something.

63. Guys believe that there is no such thing as love at first sight, but they court these girls anyway.

64. Guy like femininity not feebleness.

65. Guys don`t like girls who punch harder that they do.

66. A guy may instantly know if the girl like him but can never be sure unless the girl tells him.

67. A guy would waste his time over video games and basketball, the way a girl would do over the romance novels and make-ups.

68. Guys love girls who can cook.

69. Guys like girls who are like their moms... no kidding!

70. A guy has more problems than you can see with your naked eyes.

71. A guy`s friend knows everything about him. Use this to your advantage.

72. Don`t be snob. Guys may easily give up on the first sign of rejections.

73. Don`t be biased. Try loving a guy without prejudices and you`ll be surprised.

74. Girls who bathe in their eau de perfumes do more repelling that attracting guys.

75. Guys are more talkative than girls are especially when the topic is about girls.

76. Guys don`t comprehend the expression "get lost!" too well.

77. Guys really think that girls are strange and have unpredictable decisions but still love them all the more.

78. When a guy gives a crooked or pretentious grin at your jokes, he finds them offending and he just tried to be polite.

79. Guys don`t care about on how shiny their shoes unlike girls.

80. Guys tend to generalize about girls but once they get to know them, they`ll realize they`re wrong.

81. Any guy can handle his problems all by his own. He`s just too stubborn to deal with it.

82. Guys find it so objectionable when a girl swears.

83. Guys' weakest point is at the knee.

84. When a problem arises, a guy usually keeps himself cool but is already thinking of a way out.

85. When a guy is conscious of his looks, it show he is not good at fixing things.

86. When a guy looks at you, either he`s amazed on you or he`s criticizing you.

87. When you catch him cheating on you and he asks for a second chance, give it to him but when you catch him cheating again and he asks for another chance, ignore him.

88. If you have a boyfriend and your bestfriend is also a boy, always glances at you and it obviously shows that he is jealous whenever you`re with you boyfriend, all i can say is that you bestfriend loves you more that you boyfriend does.

89. If a guy lets you go, he really loves you.

90. Guys learn from experience not from the romance books that girls read and take as their basis of experience.

91. You can tell if a guy is really hurt or in pain... when he cries in front of you!

92. If a guy suddenly asks you for a date, ask him why.

93. When a guy says he can`t sleep if he doesn`t hear you voice even for just one night, hang up. He also tells that to another girl. He only flatters you and sometimes make fun of you.

94. You can truly say that a guy has a good intention if you see him praying sometimes.

95. Guys seek for advice not from a guy but from a girl.

96. Girls are allowed to touch boys' things... but not their hair.

97. If someone says you`re beautiful, that guys likes you.

98. Guys hate girls who over-reacted.

99. Guys love you more than you love them if they are serious in your relationship.

100. REMINDER: Test a guy first if he`s really the one. Some are just pretending.
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1. When a girl says she's sad, but she isn't crying, it means she's crying in her heart.

2. When she ignores you after you've done something wrong, it's best to give her some time to cool down before touching her heart with an apology.

3. A girl can't find anything to hate about the guy she loves (which is why it is so hard for her to 'get over him' after the relationship' s over.)

4. If a girl loves a guy, he will always be on her mind every minute of the day, even though she flirts with other guys.

5. When the guy she likes smiles and stares deep into her eyes, she will melt.

6. A girl likes to hear compliments, but usually not sure how to react to them.

7. When a particular guy flirts with a girl very often, a girl would start thinking the guy likes her. So if you treat a girl just as a friend, go easy on the smiles and stare ok?

8. If you don't like a girl who likes you, break it to her gently.

9. If a girl starts avoiding you after you reject her, leave her alone for a while. If you still treat her as a friend, talk to her.

10. Girls enjoy talking about what they feel. Music, poetry, drawing sand writing are ways of expressing themselves (which explains why most girls like writing journals).

11. Never tell a girl that she is useless in anyway.

12. Being too serious can turn a girl off.

13. When the guy she likes calls her for the first time, the girl may act look uninterested during the call. But as soon as the phone is back on the hook, she will whoop with joy and immediately start telephoning her friends to spread the news.

14. A smile means a lot to a girl.

15. If you like a girl, try making friends with her first. Let her get to know you.

16. If a girl says she can't go out with you because she has to study, leave.

17. But if she still calls you or expect a call from you, stay.

18. Don't try to guess a girl's feelings. Ask her.

19. Hearing the words "I love you" is a great reassurance to a girl that she is beautiful.

20. After a girl falls in love with a guy, she'll wonder why she never noticed him before.

21. If you need tips on how to flirt with a girl, read romance stories.

22. When class pictures come out, a girl would first check who is standing next to her crush before actually looking at herself.

23. A girl's ex-crush will always be in her memory, but the guy she loves now stays in her heart.

24. Girls love having fun!

25. A simple 'Hi' can brighten a girl's day.

26. A girl's best friends usually know best what she is feeling and going through.

27. Girls hate it when a guy pays attention to them just to get close to their 'prettier' friend.

28. Love means devotion, caring and happiness to a girl, in that order.

29. Some girls care about looks, some care about brains, but ALL girls want a guy who will love and care for them.

30. Girls want nothing more than to feel loved.

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How true is this??
Hmm..some quite true on me....
from the guy and girl I know, some acting the same way, some doesn't.
their is still some biased on the statement.

so friend.....who do u think about this??
Some said this is the bible of a guy and girl...100% true wor..haha

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一起走过

“你是否是个细心的人？”，我常常这样的问自己，或许在这方面，我还做得不够好，还有很多要学习的功课。。。

很多时候，和一帮弟兄姐妹打闹在一起，一起谈，一起笑，往往会不自主地猜想，他们的笑容是真心的吗？还是只是在人前强颜欢笑，但在人后却有留不完的眼泪和那唱不完的悲歌？每当大家在笑的时候，我们有没有用心留意过身旁的人，他们是真的开心吗？

人 是有感觉的动物，如果有用“心”去感受，你会发现有很多人虽然外表坚强，但内心却是十分脆弱的，若是可以，请主动的付出关爱，或许我们所做的那一点点是那 么的微不足道，但是有的时候一声简单的问候却足以温暖人心，像一缕阳光照耀在他人内心深处，让他体会到其实他并不是在孤军作战，因为还有我们在为他加油打 气！

圣经告诉我们：“与喜乐的人要同乐，与哀哭的人要同苦”（罗12：15）同时也教导我们：“个人不要单顾自己的事，也要顾别人的事 ”（腓 2：4）。只要我们愿意聆听，安慰并把上帝的爱散播给他们时，必定能使他人心中充满喜乐与盼望。虽然我们知道我们是渺小的，并不能为他做些什么，但是我深 信，藉着祷告，靠着全能的上帝，凡事都能做！

不过有一点要提醒弟兄姐妹，若我们只是站在自己的立场来辅导或帮助一个人，我们可以提出许多建议，但始终还是无法解决他的问题。因为他所需要的，不是那些他已经知道的理论，而是有人能陪着他一起走过心灵的死阴幽谷，并带他从幽谷中走出来。。。

站在自己的立场来帮助人，只会增加他人的压力和痛苦，只有设身处地的体会他的遭遇，才能分担他人的苦楚。。。

所以朋友们，让我们一起努力为身边人祷告，求主赐我们智慧晓得如何不站在自己的角度，来帮助别人，而愿意谦卑放下自己的想法，来为别人设想。。。



一起加油啦！

转载自
http://summerlongago.blogspot.com/2009/04/blog-post_13.html

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有意思的文章。
是一个组员的分享。
看到她的文字，让我有点惊讶。 原来她是这么有想法的。
我自己也该好好检查自己， 要如何更有效地去关心人吧。